PERFECTIONISM- GAG!!!!

Ok, let's talk perfectionism today. Perfectionism is a bitch. No other way to describe it.

It is one of my worst qualities and something I have struggld with severely my entire life.

Why are we so dang hard on ourselves? Do you realize that you are 200% always harder on yourself than you are on other people? We are our own worst critics.

When you are constantly trying to be PERFECT it is severely self-depricating and self-destructive. I'm not saying to not try your best to live a good life, but there is a fine line between trying your best and trying to be the best.

When we focus on perfection something ugly rears its head.  It is a monster filled with negataive self talk, self-hatred, depression, anxiety, and a never ending feeling that you just can't measure up.

Listen I get it. It's so easy to compare yourself to the mom you see at church, or your best friend, your co-worker, your siblings, but it is such a bad habit. When we compare it steals away our joy. When we compare it will never make you feel good enough, smart enough, pretty enough.

So stop comparing!  Stop beating yourself up!  Instead of focusing on all your flaws, focus on the things that you do right. Focus on your strength and your individual qualities.

Stop the perfectionism trap. It will make you miserable and get you absolutely nowhere.  Stop with the 'what ifs'. You don't have to be perfect, you just need to try your best. You will make mistakes and that's okay. Dust yourself off, try again, and let God pick up the rest.

xo,
Lyndsee

AUTHENTIC ALLIES

Authentic: (adjective)
Definition of: Real or genuine, not copied or false, true and accurate.

Allies: (plural of Ally)
Definition of: A person or group that gives help to another person or group. Supporter of another person or group.

I'm sure most of you have heard the quote before, "You become like the 5 people you spend the most time with. Choose carefully."

Take a second to do a mental inventory of the five people you spend the majority of your time with.   Do you feel that these people are positive or negative influences in your life?

Now that you know who these 5 people are, do you feel like they are your 'Authentic Allies.' Do they know everything about you and still accept you? Do they lift you up when you are down? Are they honest with you or fake with you? Do they really have your back, or do they just say they have your back? Do they love you unconditionally? Would they stand up for you if someone hurt your feelings? Do they include you?  Do they support your dreams and goals? Do they push you to be the best version of yourself? Do they make you feel at peace when you are around them, or do they make you feel anxious instead?

Think about it.  Think about who you let in your inner-circle.  You are important.  You deserve to be lifted up and loved. If there are people in your life that do not bring out the best in you, or make you feel less than you are. Cut them loose. Move ON.

 I guarentee you there are plenty of people out there that truly do love you and care about you. Flaws and all. Chosse your circle carefully.

Find your Authentic Allies and cling to them. Be good to them. Lift them up. Let them know of their self-worth. Be honest with them. Be kind. Listen to them. Love them. I can't ever over-emphasize the importance of just being kind & being a friend to someone.There is too much ugly and negativity in this world. Don't be that. Don't go there. Don't judge. Be someone's light. Be someone's reason to laugh, to smile, to hold on. Just be genuine.

"If we are not making someone else's life better, than we are wasting our time."

"Everyone you meet is fighting a battle, that you know nothing about."